From Bad to Worse

What a hell of a day. First I rush off to work forgetting my cell phone. I still get to work late.

Finally 4 p.m. rolls around and I go to see my attorney and he asked me where my evidence was..um .. at home.

Anyways..I didn't need my attorney so much as he didn't do anything but cost me $150 an hour. I called and asked the kids' atty if they should come and if I should just drop the whole thing so the kids don't have to testify. She said it doesn't matter at this point as she would not let it drop. I felt better about that. BUT my boys still had to come. They thought they would have to testify but it turned out they didn't need to but I knew it was still traumatizing. They ended up waiting in her office watching a movie for almost 2 hrs while we were in court.

So the judge called me first .. the only cases in the court room was us and my minister and his wife. Apparently the kids' atty came up with a compromise and wanted us to go over it, Manuel wanted to "give evidence" but the judge allowed us to go over what the kids' atty had purposed.

He then called the D*T***s and basically did the same thing allowed ex's atty and them to work out an agreement that basically stated that ex will not communicate with them directly, but could communicate with the church on his own behalf if he wanted to become un - disfellowshipped. He is not allowed to talk about me to the church.

While they do that I go over the proposal the kids' atty made up. There was only one thing I disagreed on and that was giving up my computer. It is a requirement of my job. There was a couple of things we both have to do such as go to a joint parenting class, there are porn blockers on both our computers, which I already have on my comp..um hello I have 3 boys..refrain from using corporal punishment..which I disagree with..but made it clear that I would do it as long as ex didn't tell the kids.

His part he has to get therapy. He can only see the kids through and with the therapist. Oh yea..I have to see the therapist too until the therapist knows I am a good mom..she said she imagines it would only take the first visit..awww..how sweet. Once the therapist releases ex from therapy he can start regular visitation again. If he violates the agreement in any shape or form, visitation will go to supervised visitation. He can have communication over the phone, but in the beginning I have to monitor the calls. He is not allowed to talk to the kids about me, discuss adult issues with the kids such as my sex life or show them pics that he thinks are me to the kids, he is not allowed to discuss the proceedings of the court with the kids (me too), he is not allowed to say slanderous things about me to ANYONE (the anyone I had them add in at the very last minute it was originally just the kids). My point with the anyone is it is embarrassing for my kids to see people they know their dad has said anything to about me. There were a few other minor stipulations such as no M-rated video games or R-rated movies for the kids (which I was happy to hear as that was a big problem I had with ex was him letting them play and/or watch the M and R rated. This agreement is supposed to be added to the stalking injunction and the protective order which was agreed upon would stay in effect. The only contact he is suppose to have with me is by email and only to discuss the kids.

The judge admonished ex again stating "even if all the things you said about the mother of your children were true, you should NOT be discussing those things or showing those things to your children"

I told the kids' atty that I had no faith that ex was going to follow the court order, he hasn't so far, and I want to know what the consequences were going to be. They are the same as if he violated the protective order as they are a part of it.

OK..biggest surprise of all...are you ready for this...ex didn't say a thing to the judge or courtroom.

Funniest thing that happened..after ex left the courtroom still in his prison-striped jammies and arm and leg shackles...the kids' atty stated to ex's atty "hopefully this will work." the ex's atty shook his head and said no its not going to work. He knows just as I told the kids' atty he is going to violate that order.

So...we finally leave the court room at 5:30 p.m. The kids' atty informs the kids what the rules were now and how they were to help enforce them by reminding him and/or calling her. The only mistake she made was telling them that ex was going to be released. WRONG the hearing had nothing to do with him violating the stalking injunction.

Well, needless to say..it was a very very stressful day and a Monday on top of it. But it just gets worse. MY SON G*** this I can't discuss yet. But it is bad. Very bad. I knew it was going to be bad cause of the trauma of thinking they were going to have to testify against their dad. BUT DAMN. TBC....I need some sleep.

Court Again Tomorrow

Well, my attorney will be there, his attorney will be there, the kid's attorney will be there. It should be great fun. As of 7 p.m. Sunday night, he was still sitting his ass in jail.

The saddest part will be if my kid's have to testify. I would hate for them to have to do that. I have told them they have to wait in the lobby because I do not want them to see their dad in prison stripes and shackled. I just think that would be a miserable thing for them.

In the meantime, I'm playing on pogo, I have to admit the time playing pool on pogo has helped my game. Well I don't win, BUT I have a good time and make a couple of good shots here and there.

I have been advised by the best hairdresser out there to grow my bangs out...It is hard for me to do, but here is what it looks like so far. This pic taken just minutes before this post.

How about ...

How about another pic to break up the blog. I had no idea I could be so winded! I better not see any comments about that statement!!!

I am a BBW
(big beautiful woman)

Court

On Wednesday October 25, 2006 I filed a Protective Order for my children as Manuel has threaten the boys if he were ever to go to jail. The youngest one (Age 11) was told by his father if he (dad) went to jail that when he got out he would kill him (son). The #@$@#%!!! So since Manuel is in jail and my boys were nervous I filed for a Protective Order.

We had a hearing on Monday October 30, 2006. Manuel attended in his prison stripes and shackles. I do have to admit I did give a little smirk when he looked at me. He called our case first and had us sworn in. Manuel didn't say anything so the judge made him repeat it.

Manuel's side of the story. He claims to have pornographic pictures of me with other men. (Not True) He claims I have made pornographic movies with men (Not True) He claims I sell them on the web (well since I don't have them how could I sell them?) He claims that I go to Las Vegas to have orgies. (Not True - never been to an orgie) He claims that I have pornographic movies with me and two men. (Not True - never been with two men at once) He claims that I expose all of the above to my children. (Well since none of it is true how could I expose my children to it?)

The truth...Manuel has shown my oldest son (Age 14) a picture of a black man having sex with a white woman and told my son that it was me. He states - in court yesterday totally irrelevant of the purpose of the hearing - that he could tell it was me because - are you ready for this - we both have the same curve on the bottom of our feet (There was no head or face in the picture).

Thanks to Manuel my children have an attorney (Guardian Ad Litem). The attorney came to court yesterday. The attorney has heard from each of my boys - has heard the threats Manuel made to them. The worst being the threat of death but to all of them he told them that if he went to jail he would no longer be their daddy. (That's sad) Has heard about Manuel telling the oldest boy to lie to the police.

Now you have a background of what is present at court. The judge was very lenient with Manuel allowing him to talk about all the above without any reason or it being relevent. This was very frustrating as there was members of my church present in the court room. The judge asked me when I was made aware of the threat to my son's life and what was said etc. I explained the circumstance. He then asked the kid's atty if she had any questions, and the atty started asking me about Manuel exposing the children to porn. As soon as I started telling them about the circumstances Manuel interupted and requested a continuance (second time as this was a continuance from the stalking order.) He made comments during my testimony as "she's lying" several times. The judge never reprimanded him for this. The judge allowed for the continuance as Manuel has been in jail this whole time and not able to contact his atty (probably the atty knows that if he can't afford the $75 bond he can't afford an atty - as this is a civil action he can't get a public defender). I told the judge I wanted to make a short statement for the record. I didn't see a problem with this as Manuel was allowed to make all kinds of statement's. He denied me. I made the request again but making the statement while doing so that I have never made pornographic movies or pictures with men and I have not gone to Las Vegas to have an orgie. Manuel of course had to have the last word, by stating that yes he went to my house to get "his" trailer and "his" tiller because he was letting me "borrow" them. (He lives in an apartment, why would he need the tiller and trailer?) The judge looked at Manuel in surprise. Um Manuel pleaded not guilty to the charges of stalking on Tuesday. The judge looked at me and stated. Well, Manuel has just admitted to violating the stalking order under oath. The judge then rolled his eyes. Then tells me that the children will probably have to go to court and testify against Manuel (in chambers with only attorneys present). I am very unhappy about this. So much so that I almost told him to forget the whole thing. The judge did tell me I should get an attorney for this as he would rate it equilivalant to having a broken leg and would not suggest setting the bone myself. Oh well, he dismisses me and calls the next case.

By now I am sure this is all boring to the average reader. It is hard to explain the frustration and embarassment of having this stuff being told about you over and over again to my community, local authorities and members of my church.

Well the next case is none other than my minister (hence the church members being present). My minister also has a request for a stalking injunction against Manuel, because Manuel sent the minister's wife at least 12 emails about me and the smut he is spreading with at least 3 of those emails using very vulgar words such as (f word). Manuel again starts making statements such as "I am sorry for contacting the D*T****s but I just wanted them to help D*** as she is going to Vegas to have origies and making pornographic movies..." Finally the judge states very loudly and firmly "You just do NOT know when to stop do you. You can NOT leave it alone. You should NOT be talking about her that way. Stop talking about her that way. None of this stuff should be made public, whether true or not, (GRRRRR i hated that part) you should NOT be saying this stuff in public." Woo Hoo!! Not that it will do any good, but it sure was nice to have him stick up for me. The minister's stalking injunction was also postponed til next Monday.

After reveiwing the whole court scene, it is my opinion that the kid's attorney has something up her sleeve that I do not know about but I think the judge was aware of it. I think the judge also had a reason for wanting me to get an attorney as he knew Manuel would have one and I have a feeling he did not want Manuel getting out of it. My guess is next Monday's court hearing will be an interesting one.

Arrested

Well on Monday 10-23-06 he was finally arrested. Came to my house and took my trailer and tiller. Had my son help him. What a loser. The cops didn't do anything about him taking the property but because I had the stalking injunction arrested him for stalking. UM what part of don't go near my house did you not get idiot.

He is still in jail because he can not come up with the $75 it would take to get a bond. OH WELL.

Do you think...

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Do you think it is these that keeps him so jealous?

Stalking

I hate being stalked. The person stalking me thinks its no big deal. He is not hurting me physically so why does he have to stop.

It all started when we were divorced about 1 year. I started seeing someone. He couldn't handle it and would call ceaselessly, sending a ton of emails, sending me Instant Messages. It was crazy. I told him to leave me alone but he wouldn't. I started telling him off the wall things about stuff I was doing, lying to him thinking it would get him to leave me alone. It didn't. He started sending all this bad information to my minister and his wife. It was very embarassing to say the least. My minister went and got a civil stalking injunction. I had no idea you could do that.

So I took my 2 inches of printed emails and instant messages down to the court and filed for the injunction. Almost 2 weeks later the judge granted it.

I have a civil stalking injunction. But get this...he is fighting it.

He has continued to send me Instant Messages using all kinds of different names. I know its him. I tell him to stop. I have called the cops, they say it's civil. I have talked to the judge, he says no its a Class A misdemeanor. I call the cops again, they obviously think its petty because they don't do shit about it.

He follows me on Pogo, uses all kinds of different names. It is draining.

Now I have become paranoid, thinking all guys who try to Instant Message me or chat with me in Pogo are him. I give them all a hard time.

I met a really nice guy yesterday, but gave him a really hard time because I thought it was stalker posing again. When I asked him to prove it by letting me call it, I knew for sure it was going to be a wrong number. Imagine my surprise when the guy answered the phone. Oh yea did I feel retarded. I hope he forgives me and we can get to know each other better. He probably thinks I am some physcho bitch. *big sigh* I hope not.

Well the worst thing is he is involving my kids in this. He has over the last 2 years told my kids all kinds of bad and nasty things about me. Stuff that is way way innappropriate to tell kids. Now he asks my oldest son to search my computer for messages, pictures, videos, and anything else he might find. He has told my son that I am a porn star and have videos on my computer of me fu*king 2 guys at once. Then tells him to go find them. Holy hell!! There are no videos of me. I am not a porn star. BUT WTF, if there were and my son found them he would be warped forever. How stupid is this guy. This bothers me the most.

Well as it stands, we went to court on our anniversary (I requested this day as I thought it very appropriate) and he told the judge he wants a continuance so he can get discovery and/or get an attorney. The judge granted it. He said that the order is still in place until the hearing. I told the judge, it is not doing any good as he is violating it every day. Thats when the judge asked if I had reported it, I said I did and told him about the officer saying it was civil. Thats when he informed me and the ex that it is a Class A Misdemeanor for him to violate it. I immediately afterwards called and gave a report of all the violations. The cop told me again it was a civil problem. I told him what the judge said. The cop tells me "Well it looks like you got plenty of evidence, I will have to see how I need to report this." End of story, never took a report or statement, didn't take the evidence and has not contacted me about it since.

In the meantime...ex has contacted me every single day since the court date.

Here I am!

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My First Time Here

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